I know it’s been a while and I have a LOT of posts to catch up on. First things first, updates
Since I last wrote, I have (1) graduated from Capella University with my Masters in Mental Health Counseling, (2) gotten hired on at my previous pre-graduate internship site, (3) taken and passed the National Counselor Exam, (4) Applied for and been accepted as a Counselor Intern (C.I.) with the Louisiana Board of Examiners, and (5) begun researching the National Health Service Corp.
When working on graduating, taking the licensing exams, and networking in a down economy it is essential to minimize distractions. Any one of these activities could be considered a full time job in and of itself, so my recommendation is to not be too hard on yourself and to pick and choose. It’s importance to balance professional pursuits with self-care. While I have done a “lot,” there is also a “lot” that has had to take a second place to self-care (or risk personal overload)! For instance, the article I am working (and hoping to publish) has been untouched since things began getting hectic (as has this blog).
I’m sorry I haven’t been writing/updating the site.
My number one recommendation to Counseling graduate students is to put every effort into putting your best foot forward at your pre-graduate internship site. Now this does not mean that one should feel pressured to be “the best most empathetic intern ever!”…in fact, far from it! The goals that one should set for oneself at a pre-graduate internship site may seem simple and include the following: (1) be 5-10min early for your scheduled shift, (2) call in advance to speak with your supervisor if you will be late or absent, (3) be willing to WORK (and I mean get down and dirty, do whatever goofer work is asked of you type work), (4) try to be proactive with your work rather than re-active (the site will expect you to make mistakes – making it easier for a pre-graduate intern to make a “mistake,” revise and learn from it…so RISK it)!, and (5) show gratitude to the rest of the work staff team (admissions, the nursing staff, doctors, and counseling in a multi-professional environment all work together and their work affects that of each other!…a box of doughnuts on a busy Wed morning can go a long way to meeting the rest of the team and to increase communication/learning opportunities which could later bridge into career opportunities).
I’m hoping to continue updating weekly and will have more details to come.:) Thanks everyone for all your patience while updating/catching up.
This award was granted by AnxietyAdventures over at Anxiety Adventures: The Chronicles of the Anxious – this is an excellent blog expressing thoughts/emotions surrounding anxiety and panic attacks. I’m especially thankful for this award, because it exposed me to this blog.
For this award you must share seven things about yourself:
- I am a “Gemini” and was born in the Chinese Year of the “Rat”
- My favorite color is Blue
- I get every single geek joke in “The Big Bang Theory…”
- …making me an uber geek
- horror movies still get to me sometimes – to the point of sleeping with the light on:)
- I like reading Fantasy/Fiction/Romance novels for fun – and am a big fan of George RR Martin
- I have 2 stuffed toys (Dr. Seuss’ “The Lorax” and “The Cheshire Cat”) on the dashboard of my car
Then you must nominate 10 blogs you admire:
- Charly CONCHITA Carlyle (warning NSFW)
- Book of Words
- Enjoy Life For Once
- The World of Mismatched Socks
One thing I like to say is that change is hard! If change was easy, there would be no need for therapists, counselors, social workers, etc. Furthermore, change is a process that is difficult and can be a lot of work and/or painful (Polcin, 2003). It is therapeutic change, and a break down of client resistant behaviors that therapists strive to engage. Moreover, resistance has multiple purposes and causes depending on the nature of therapeutic involvement (voluntary or non-voluntary) or extent of content to be disclosed (Sommers-Flanagan & Sommers-Flanagan, 2009). Some examples of resistant client behaviors can include: (1) too much talking, (2) lack of talking, (3) late/early arrivals, (4) lack of preparation or too much preparation, and (5) too much or lack of emotional control (Sommers-Flanagan & Sommers-Flanagan, 2009). (See below for References)
Lynn Shallcross wrote an excellent article on client resistance and the role of client resistance/managing that resistance as a counselor. Click the text to go to the full article!
“You can’t change anyone else; you can only change yourself. Many counselors have used this common bit of wisdom to help clients overcome problems, but it’s crucial that counselors internalize that idea themselves, says Clifton Mitchell, a professor and coordinator of the community agency concentration in the counseling program at East Tennessee State University.”
Polcin, D. L. (2003). Rethinking Confrontation in Alcohol and Drug Treatment: Consideration of the Clinical Context. Substance Use & Misuse, 38(2), 165.
Somers-Flanagan, J and Somers-Flanagan, R. (2009). Clinical Interviewing. 4th. Ed. Wiley & Sons, Inc., Hoboken, NJ.
This image and quote from the Dalai Lama holds a lot of meaning. In stressing over the future or worrying excessively, many develop anxiety responses. In focusing on the past, trauma and pain from the past can prevent enjoyment of present. In being consumed with pleasing others or being “perfect,” the individual can neglect self.